For some reason a lot of old memories have been surfacing for me lately.  I was on a couple of forums recently and was reading the painful and heartfelt posts of mothers who have or are currently miscarrying their babies.  Hearing their stories instantly took me back to the days when I was the woman so desperately trying to<strong><em> stay</em></strong> pregnant, worried over every single twinge and then suffering the deep anguish of losing a baby.  Twice.

Here's the thing about an early miscarriage - It's difficult to explain to someone who's never been through it how it feels to be pregnant one day and then not the next but with empty arms.   To be honest people generally don't know how to deal with a friend or family member who has lost a baby through miscarriage.  They may want to help and be supportive but many people don't know what to say and often end up saying the wrong things.  You try not to take it personally but really the last thing you feel like doing is listening to comments that make you feel worse.

Here are some tips based on my own personal miscarriage experiences:
<pre>[table]DON'T SAY:, DO SAY:
It was for the best, I'm sorry
At least you didn't feel the baby move, "I know you loved your baby from the minute you knew you were  pregnant"
You're young you have lots of time, 

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